Failure can be a blessing

When we were babies and looked up on the counter at a bright pink bottle full of medicine, our brains did not understand that we would get seriously sick if we opened it up and drank it. Since the pharmaceutical industry understood this phenomenon, the bottle would come child proofed so that even if we got a hold of the bottle, we would fail to open it. While in the moment as children, we may have been upset or confused as to why we could not open the bottle, as adults we could look back and understand that there were systems in place to protect us from what we did not know could hurt us.

When we experience failure at any stage of our life, our body responds with heavy emotions, such as shame, embarrassment, depression or even anxiety, about how this failure will change the internal and external perceptions of ourselves. Our own self image may go down a few notches if we begin to think that our failure equates to not being good enough at something. Our perception of the external image of ourselves may amplify this feeling if we think others will see the failure and think the same sentiment. Whether this may be not getting a certain job, a certain score or even a certain significant other, it is easy to frame the “failure” in a paradigm where we wonder, “Why did this happen to me?” However, the biggest shift in emotions into a higher energy comes when we begin to wonder, “How is this happening for me?”
If you go back to the beginning example of the baby not being able to open the medicine, there was a higher power at play who knew it would be best if a baby could not open the bottle. The baby grew up and realized that though the child-proofing may have caused distress in the moment, it was for their long term safety and benefit.

When failure inevitably occurs in our lives, it may be the “STOP” sign we need to not continue going down a certain road. We may not understand why in the moment, but as life unfolds, the question of “How is this happening for me?” should begin to be answered. This is not to say that the feelings of hurt and disappointment are not real or valid when they are experienced after failure. This sentiment is meant to provide your mind with a perspective shift that can give these feelings purpose and grounding to continue moving you forward on a path that a greater power trusts you should be on. As you are healing from the emotions that are rising through the change in plans you are going through, release attachment from any particular outcome you had for yourself and see where the universe wants to bring you for your highest good.